Saturday, 8 October 2016

She's gotta have it....

Women MUST have sex. 

That is the message implied by this.



Full piece here.... http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-37588549

Why? Why does a woman need a "new lease of life" that obviously involves her having sex. There is no mention of sex with another woman or sex with herself mentioned here by the way.

The report helpfully and sympathetically points out that..... 


This might sometimes coincide with this......

Women who don't want sex with men don't need shaming into it. They don't need to be made to feel that there is something medically wrong with them. 

Let's make it nice and medical though....


Except for the last bit "relationship issues". Like the fact that a woman, functioning autonomously might just not want sex with a man?Her "relationship issues" could be with a man who is coercing her into sex. A man who is raping her within the relationship? Those kind of issues. 

The statistic of men who use sexual control, as part of relationship where a man is abusing a woman, is largely hidden and possibly the issue least discussed by women, because women are ashamed and embarrassed.   Even amongst other women. Women don't want to discuss this particular depth of their past abuse at the hands of a male partner. This is the point in the relationship where they are being used as a receptacle for his sperm as well as his hatred.

The Freedom Programme produced a wonderful video to highlight the techniques of the sexual controller. It is here....


A man might say to a woman a variety of these things...

          If you love me you will want to have sex with me...

          A man has to have sex... it is unhealthy if he doesn't...the pressure 
          builds up in his balls

          My friends have sex with their women at least five times a week

         What am I supposed to do if you won't have sex with me? Go to a prostitute? 
         Do you want that?

         I'll go elsewhere and it will be your fault....


This could of course be skipped in favour of....

     I own you. I am having sex with you whenever I like. Particularly when you don't want it as I don't really care what you want."

This is called rape. It does happen within a marriage. It has been illegal in the UK since 1991 and the case of R v R October 24th 1991.


So really...stop shaming women into thinking that if they don't want sex they are deficient or abnormal. A woman who is ready will let a man... or another woman... or her own fingers know. If none of that works then she can find a doctor and his man drugs without fear or shame. 

Linked to this are the rather desperate actions of men's rights activist Ben Froughi, who this week went to extraordinary lengths to stop women hearing how they might be able to say no to sex they don't want. He went to the measure of handing out leaflets to students at York University before a lecture on consent. The leaflets were deliberately misleading in that he had printed the York University logo at the top and they instructed students that the lecture was not compulsory. So... subtly suggesting they shouldn't stay. His complaint is with York University Women's Student Union. Or "man-hating feminists". He is annoyed that they have a voice on consent. He is annoyed that they wish to stop women being raped and men raping them. What he wants is for women to remain ill-informed about their rights around the law and their own bodies. He doesn't want young men educating that they do not have the right to those female bodies. So Ben Froughi is very keen that there are a supply of young women who don't know how to say "NO!" and young men who don't know how to hear "NO!" 

Campus rape is a problem and not just among the student body. This report in the Guardian shows that male academics also feel entitled to a woman's body if he is well-endowed enough with academic credentials. 

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2016/oct/07/scale-of-sexual-abuse-in-uk-universities-likened-to-savile-and-catholic-scandals


The outstandingly loud message is that women have to have sex with men. They need to be taught less, drugged more, ignored more frequently and coerced more often by men and in some cases the medical profession funded by the government. What is now to stop a man who is already coercing a woman from marching her to a doctors to get her "fixed"?

I leave you with this thought which many coerced women have.... or just me?





Love yourselves women. Take that as you will.

Peace,

JH x