Sunday, 15 November 2015

I am not part of a male WE. The Paris Attack.

David Cameron - "However much WE prepare, WE in the UK face the same threat..... WE stand with you united."

Francoise Hollande : " WE are at war, and because WE are at war WE are taking exceptional measures"

Barack Obama: "WE stand prepared and ready to provide whatever assistance the people of France need to respond"

Three statements yesterday which suggest that "WE" are heading for a lot more fighting. WE are under threat. WE are going to fight back in the face of "THEIR" attack. WE are the good guys. WE will be doing all the good fighting against THEIR attacks. 

Fighting talk. Man talk. 

WE love this too....

we shall fight on the beaches,
we shall fight on the landing grounds,
we shall fight in the fields and in the streets,
we shall fight in the hills;
we shall never surrender
                                         Winston Churchill.

It gets OUR blood racing. It gets US foaming at the mouth for brave action. It puts guns in OUR hands and OUR boots on the ground. Fires US up.  Makes US patriotic. 


I'm not WE. I'm part of the WE that is women. WE don't wage these wars. WE don't perpetrate terrorist attacks on Paris. WE weren't on a Tunisian beach shooting at tourists. WE didn't fly planes into the Twin Towers.

WE died though. Lots of US. WE still are. Sometimes in war. Sometimes not. WE are killed by men. 

WE pick up our children to escape those wars waged by men. WE die on boats with our children at night trying to escape the violence in Syria. WE live in the camps at Calais subject to terrible conditions and vulnerable to sexual assault. WE are the ones raped and sexually assaulted in times of conflict as acts of vengeance/indulgence by soldiers who feel it is a "reward" of war. WE are placed in situations of danger throughout the world by the terrible mistakes of men who engage in conflict. WE often fight in those conflicts as military personnel too. It does not mean WE are responsible for the weapon placed in our hand even then. It just shows that WE are brave despite the intolerable foolishness of men who lead us into wars. There are some mighty and astonishing mistakes and most result from power, money and resources (land, oil, gas etc).

OH! I can hear it coming on down the line .....on the 10.56am from Luton.... "MRS THATCHER THOUGH!!!" - Here young man - have a banana and sit over there and eat it in the corner like the monkey you are. One evil woman does not make the rest a target for your daft. 

Next..... careering in driving an Audi A6 from Alderley Edge...... "ANGELA MERKEL THOUGH!"...... here ya go... have a kiwi fruit.... it will last longer and is a bit more intricate as that took you a bit longer to think up. (You're still a bit of a dick. Merkel has also successfully rescued an economy and is under constant and incredible pressure from men trying to oust her despite that. She's doing what she needs to do I guess. She also extended the hand of Germany to refugees whilst men dithered and let them die.) 

Finally..... here comes the helicopter. From Hertfordshire somewhere. Anywhere. "BOUDICCA THOUGH!" ... you win the pineapple. You really do. Boudicca was leader of the Iceni and she defended against the Romans. Who were bastard men and raped a shit load of WE. Pineapple. Arse. Insert. 

Because below is a list of current armed conflicts..... not including the joint military intervention against Islamic state. They are 100% waged by male leaders. 

When you discuss the IS intervention the countries jointly involved - listed below- are 86% "initiatives" led by countries headed by men. That would be 90% but for Portugal.... new women in charge. 

Your WE looks a bit fuckin shaky eh?

 I do condemn the actions of Islamic State. I am horrified by events in Paris. I do think Islamic State are barbaric and I do think they pervert Islam as a justification for inhuman acts. I do hope that their actions don't plunge us into a situation of racist accusations and racist suspicions but I don't doubt for a second that men up and down the pubs of the land last night were proving my hopes futile. 

David Cameron, Francois Hollande, Barack Obama, Abu Bakr al-Baghdadi, Putin, Assad, etc etc etc.... My WE is women. Your WE is male violence. 

List of Ongoing Armed Conflicts : 

Afghanistan, Iraq, Nigeria, Cameroon, Niger, Chad, Syria, Israel, Palestine, Turkey, Somalia, Kenya, Nigeria, Sudan, Pakistan, Mexico, Libya, Yemen, Saudi Arabia, Yemen, CAR, South Sudan, Ukraine, India, Iran, Myanmar, Thailand, Colombia, DRC, China, Ethiopia, Algeria, Tunisia, Burundi, Russia, Lebanon, Mali, Burundi, Indonesia, Philippines, Malaysia, Angola, Peru, Armenia, Azerbaijan, Bangladesh, Djibouti, Eritrea, Mozambique. 

100% male leaders. 100 % of the "WE" is male. 

Military intervention Against ISIL :

 United States - male 
 United Kingdom - male 
 Iraq - male
Syria Syrian Opposition - male
 Australia - male 
 Belgium - male 
 Canada - Woman
 Denmark - Male
 France - male 
 Germany - woman
 Italy - male 
 Netherlands - male 
 New Zealand - Male
 Norway - Woman
 Portugal - women just took over and are being subjected to sexist behaviour from men. 
 Spain - male
 Turkey - male
 Bahrain - male 
 Jordan - male 
 Morocco - male 
 Qatar - male 
 Saudi Arabia - male 
 United Arab Emirates - male
 Egypt - male 
 Libya - male 
 Nigeria - male 
 Cameroon - male 
 Chad - male 
 Niger - male

86% of the "We" is male. Dropping to 90% if Portugal is not included because I think the women just elected mean to fight for significant change and a bit of sexism isn't going to stop them. *Salute*

Saturday, 7 November 2015

PS - I don't love you.

Twitter has added something. It has added love. I wish they hadn't bothered. 

It used to be until very recently that if you agreed with something someone said on Twitter or liked something they posted then you could click a little star ... it was a bit like awarding them a gold star.

It meant I suppose...."Well done" or "Nice one" or "Ooh....I think that too." 

Twitter is very much for the sharing of ideas and dissemination of news and articles and viewpoints. The "favourite" feature in the form of a star was not too "gushing". It was not like Facebook where people post tedious selfies of themselves in a new frock and all their friends pile on in to declare "Looking good babe <3 <3 <3".

Even the banal Facebook only has this though.... 

 and even though it is just a thumbs up it can imply so much more. People who are skirting and flirting around each other frequently try to decipher "So... are we a thing? He/she liked my post. Does that mean I can ask them out on a date??" etc. Unfortunately this can be misleading when one person intends to simply say "Nice one!" and the receiver of the "like" ... reads it as "Babies? One day? After the holiday in the Carribbean and the buying of our first fridge together? Can't wait to see you and get this romantic show on the road!" 

Facebook be Facebook. It is full of cats and weird. Twitter I expect more from.

This is what Twitter decided was a good idea.... 

They changed the "nice one" gold star into a lovely throbbing red heart.  It's now....."I LOVE YOUR TWEET!.... (and possibly you xxx) "

Ever so simply the Twitter game has changed. 

The connotations when we see a red love heart are completely different to those of a gold star. We are conditioned to soften and see passion and affection and a declaration of deep emotion. 

So when once I could have "liked" a tweet for criticising the news reporting of a rape trial... I now have to put a throbbing red piece of love affirmation next to the discussion of an abhorrent topic or not bother. 

Someone pointed out this morning that they used to use the favourite button as a bookmark. A sensible marker for when they had more time to read. No longer possible. 

However, I have bigger concerns. 

My concern is women who are negotiating men who don't understand the same codes and conventions. How many times have you considered yourself "just being friendly" whilst a man has considered it "she wants me... I can just tell.."?

This has happened on occasions since my teen years. I used to only realise when the hands were where they shouldn't be or when I was fending off a kiss I hadn't expected. At all. 

It still happens. I am still convinced that there are men who I can chat with both online and in real life who will not be deciding whether or not they can access my vagina in the next three days. Sadly. It's rare. It seems to have got worse. I am now naturally suspicious of motives. There have been times that I have made it very very clear that I have no sexual interest in a man. I have used the words "I have no interest in you sexually at all." It has meant nothing to him. He has convinced himself that I didn't mean it or was playing hard to get. It has not ended well. 

I used the "love" word last night. Randomly. Not in a serious sense. But there was a moment of "EEEK! She said "love"..." and my "shit... I just said 'Love"... I didn't mean "LOVE!"... but it was fine and the awkward passed. 

I posted some Neruda yesterday. That man knew how to love. He didn't waste that on a Twitter button. Look. This is love expressed properly..... 

It is not this.... 

"<3 babe".

So until Twitter stop being dicks and go back to creating a place where people can just approve of something without wanting to marry it.... I'll say this. Men...unless I know you in person and we know where we stand with each other... I will not be loving your tweets. (It doesn't happen very often anyway as there are far too many brilliant women to admire).

Women.... if I gift you a red throbbing Twitter heart.... it means "nice one". 

I will save my love until I feel a Neruda moment. It does happen.